I’m going to die.
One day, and whether I like it or not, I won’t have a choice. Neither will you, your best friend or worst enemy. If we could invest in the inevitability, we’d all be rich. The problem is: dying isn’t sexy and it doesn’t sell, while fear, denial and escapism is the defining hustle of our time. Di-agnosis? Death needs a makeover, a re-brand, stat!
Enter Dr. Michael Dworkind. He’s the dude you want by your side when your time is up. After our heart-to-pounding-heart, I’m good to go. A renowned family physician and global peace activist, Michael is a passionate Palliative Care pioneer who believes, above all, in life before death. A child of holocaust survivors who almost checked out twice (back-packing in the Sahara and that time his car hugged a tree), this unstoppable JewBu came to the dying biz honestly and with a hopeful vision for the terminally ill: the possibility of a good death. Can you imagine?
As Michael says, death is just a split-second in time. Everything that comes before it- is life. And it is quality of life that he and his crack, multi-disciplinary team celebrate on the PC ward at the Montreal Jewish General Hospital. What happens there is healing through dying. Compassion. Finding closure, forgiveness, acceptance; saying thank you and goodbye. People get body/mind/soul care, creative outlets and the knowledge they won’t be abandoned or overly burdened by pain. One young, golden boy famously referred to his last months on the ward as the best time of his life. Healing is an everyday phenomenon.
It can be very joyful.
Michael smiles. My hunch is his food tastes better, he cries and sings more than most, and dances into the wee hours of every day. As he tells his medical students, some of whom he hopes to recruit: Life is a chronic disease. It’s terminal and it’s sexually transmitted. He knows he has them if they laugh.
Now, if you’re smiling, tell me: how you would like to die?
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The good doctor writes, too: Creating Hope in a Hopeless Situation
Wherever you are, sign up for a version of Michael’s pet project: The Living Will and Mandate, and enjoy the day.
Click here to see Dr. Feelgood on Huffington Post!
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34 Responses to Dr. Feelgood
What a marvellous post and how glad I am to know there are people like Dr. Michael Dworkind in this world. So few people, especially physicians, get the whole thing about living with hope for a good death. I wish there were more doctors like him.
Thank you for sharing.
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‘A good death’ – spread the word! Thanks, Tez.
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Merci Brenda ! Et en plus cet homme danse super bien ! Dire que je l’ai fréquenté souvent à ta table sans savoir tout ce qu’il fait. Coïncidence : je pense beaucoup à la [ma] mort ces temps-ci. À ce que je veux faire avant. xx Geneviève
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Avec plaisir et exactement, ma chere Gen. I think it’s healthy to think about our death and to see the many wonderful ways it can improve our lives.
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Great post. Lots of good information. If anyone is interested read my son’s story about death here: http://www.benjaminhyman.com/Site/The_boy_and_his_death.html
First page is a bit unclear… (pages were scanned in) but it gets better.
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Hi, thanks for sharing your link. As my son died in May 2012, I changed my perception 360 degree.Feel free to read about my story of coping with his death and the time afterwards. I am a Reiki healer now and want to spread the unconditional reiki energy love around the world. Please share my site for the highest good of all thank you. Claudia
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My link http://dailylifeimpressions.wordpress.com/2014/01/06/back-to-the-roots-or-my-new-passion-to-share-gratefulness/
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Thank you for sharing your story, Claudia. It is heart-wrenching and inspiring. I think you might like the post I wrote about the death of my Dad.
https://burnsthefire.com/2013/08/22/my-american-dad/
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Wonderful tribute / life-lusty post. Fab! xx
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Wonderful post Brenda – a look at the possibility of a natural unfolding…and an opportunity for true closure to a chapter. Taking this with me today. Thank you
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Thanks, Linda. I love those words: natural and true.
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IMHO Michael Dworkind is a true Renaissance man. Every MD should aspire to be like MD.
Love your writing…so much so that I could not stop reading all your previous blogs! It’s not just your sentence structure, poetic phrasings, beautiful humanity, etc…for me it’s also about the cadence and pacing of how you write… gives us time to breath, injest, and FEEL. Thank you!
Irwin Haberman
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Next stop on the Dworkind train: peace and social justice. Thank you for your kind words, Irwin. Blush… and flog: would you consider subscribing to the blog? And sharing your enthusiasm to others who might appreciate it?
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I will subscribe now, read my story about the death of my son and my life afterwards Thanks for sharing http://dailylifeimpressions.wordpress.com/2014/01/06/back-to-the-roots-or-my-new-passion-to-share-gratefulness/
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Ez & I interviewed Dr. Dworkind and patients for a film…leaving me with the sense we should return for another film in which he is the focus, not just one interview. He is wonderful and his patients know it too. Here is what he gave me that we stuck to our fridge: “5 simple rules to be happy: 1. free your heart from hatred 2. free your mind from worries 3. live simply 4. give more 5. expect less
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Alex Yanofsky; you and Ezra Soiferman should absolutely do a film about Michael. He is an unparalleled wealth of experience and activism. Plus, he has an amazing wife, Lesley Levy, who is a peace activist extraordinaire. These people should mentor the world!
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Michael Dworkind is a world class individual with a huge heart to match his intellect. He endeavours to do good in this world and to make a difference. I believe he does so every day of his life. People should read his article on palliative care…particularly medical practitioners, but each and everyone of us will benefit. It is my privilege to call him a friend!
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We all should try to make a difference and do as much good as we possibly can. I am trying to do it by spreading Reiki healing via distance, read more about it on my blog, which I started after the death of my son in May 2012 http://dailylifeimpressions.wordpress.com/2014/01/06/back-to-the-roots-or-my-new-passion-to-share-gratefulness/ feel free to subscribe to my blog and share the gratefullness Lots of love
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Thanks, Ed. I am inspired by Michael Dworkind and the possibility of a good death!
Is the article on PC that Michael wrote – ‘Creating Hope in a Hopeless Situation’? If not, could you give us the title and link to it? Thanks!
Click to access creating_hope.pdf
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I’ll get back to you on this in a few decades. I am sure there will be wine involved.
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Wine, cheese and love.
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Way to Keep on Keep’n on empress…sending Strength&Guidance. Helps me through our trials & tribulations
Nuff LuV sistah!
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Linx… play on. You have met life’s challenges with amazing strength and love. More power to you, always.
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Thanks Brenda. Make it a great day today! xo
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Thank you, Catherine. Opportunity strikes when I wake up, alive.
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What an inspiration! I enjoyed reading about Dr. Dworkind. Thanks for sharing.
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Thank you, Main Street Musings. Help spread the word about the possibility of a good death and how death informs life!
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I don’t understand why death is such a taboo in our so-called modern societies. I am glad that people like Michael are trying to make it a better experience. I certainly want as peaceful as possible a death!
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Thanks for your comment, French Yummy Mummy in London. I think our insatiable consumer culture helps feed the taboo, amongst other forces, but death always has its way in the end.
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Lovely post, I have worked on a palliative care ward and there really can be joy and laughter and life right up until the moment of death.
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Thanks for sharing your experience. People need to know!
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This is so refreshing! Thank you for writing it.
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I am literally SO GLAD you posted this… I have been trying to encapsulate a blog post about death but was too scared about what my friends would think. But to be honest, I see my death as nothing but an event that will inspire this world. People don’t know what I have planned for this earth, but I know that I will have to do many great things before I die.
I must teach people compassion, love, selflessness and openness. They are the powers of the light side (kind of a Star Wars reference, see my poem: “Polarization of opposites” and it might explain things). But I just recently came out of a dark place myself, and now I see myself becoming a very strong light person who will fight with the forces of good to negate the evil that is upon this world.
I know everyone has a hero inside them. You are yourself, in my eyes, a very big great hero. Your courage is amazing and astounding that you are able to write so openly on these dark topics. However you do it with such grace and beauty that makes me want more. You are an amazing person and I hope you realize the value that you have added to this world by posting these. It is my inspiration for myself to do something much, MUCH greater with myself, hopefully to help others out that are suffering around the world.
With much love,
Justyn
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Thank you for your touching words, Justyn. I’m so glad you want to give of yourself to the world… we need all the support and love we can get!
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